“Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son” is a very brave and honest account by Lori Duron. She and her husband, Matt, live in California and are in the process of bringing up their two boys, Chase and C.J. Chase is a boy who enjoys boys’ toys and traditional boys’ activities, whereas C.J. is a little boy who enjoys all things pink and purple. He loves Disney princesses and seems to identify with feminine activities and clothes.
The author became aware of the possibility that her youngest son was gender non-conforming, or gender-creative, when, at two years old, he fell in love with Barbie. Lori Duron charts his growing affinity to all things girlish over the next three years – not the easiest time, as the family struggled at times to know the best way forward with their wonderfully creative little boy. I felt that she shows clearly the dilemma they found themselves faced with and the questions they had to ask as a family. Were they truly concerned about their child’s happiness and needs, or were they worried about what people in the neighbourhood or school would think of their parenting.
I was particularly interested in how they dealt with the bullying that was experienced by their eldest son, Chase. This began when C.J. began to attend the same school and was spotted carrying a doll by one of Chase’s peers. The boy was unmerciful in his teasing and bullying. This situation was finally dealt with when Chase and C.J’s parents consulted an expert on this particular type of bullying; the education authorities became involved also to ensure that the school handled the situation properly. Sometimes, it is not enough to try to cope with situations independently – as parents, there are times when outside intervention is essential. We are advocates for our children and sometimes need to use all the tools we can find to support their needs.
I think this is an extremely important book, which will help many parents who are raising a “rainbow” child. It is so comforting to know that one is not alone and this book will be the friendly and loving arm around many shoulders, I think. There are references at the back of the book which will be useful to many. A major message from this book is one that is dear to my heart: every child is unique and has the right to be loved unconditionally. Empathy, respect and unconditional love for our children would certainly improve our world.
I would like to thank NetGalley for the chance to read this book free of charge in return for my honest review. I would also like to thank Lori Duron for sharing so much of her family’s journey.
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